40 Day Love Dare Journal Challenge


"The Love Dare" is a 40-day challenge for husbands and wives to understand and practice unconditional love and was a major plot device in the popular movie, "Fireproof," directed by Alex Kendrick and co-written by Stephen Kendrick. Join JournalOwl with your spouse to expressively write and reflect on your 40-day journey!


"The Love Dare" is a 40-day challenge for husbands and wives to understand and practice unconditional love and was a major plot device in the popular movie, "Fireproof," directed by Alex Kendrick and co-written by Stephen Kendrick. The New York Times No. 1 bestselling book "The Love Dare," co-authored by award-winning filmmakers Alex and Stephen Kendrick, was featured in USA Today April 11: “Top 25 spiritual and inspirational nonfiction books from USA Today's bestseller list.”

Invite your husband or wife and join JournalOwl on this inspirational 40-day online journaling challenge. Watch and pray with Kirk Cameron daily with a quick devotional video 

  • Listen to the day’s “dare” and apply it in your day-to-day journey with your significant other
  • Answer thought-provoking questions in your online journal about your day in reflection
  • Share your thoughts with your spouse, or keep them private – whatever you choose

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Disclaimer: The 40-day challenge was not created by JournalOwl, nor do we have any affiliation or contribution to the videos produced by Kirk Cameron. Per the YouTube Standard License agreement, we have embedded these videos without downloading, altering, or changing the content. All credit goes to the original creators of the 40-day challenge and the associated YouTube videos. We are simply an online journaling engine to help elevate and accelerate comprehension across a wide array of topics, including: religion & spirituality, history, current affairs, science, technology, and wellness. 

Steps (40)

Step 1: ❤️ Love it Patient

Resolve to say nothing negative about your spouse today. Ephesians 4:2 “with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love,”

Step 2: ❤️ Love is Kind

Do at least one unexpected gesture to your spouse as an act of kindness. Ephesians 4:32 “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”

Step 3: ❤️Love is Not Selfish

Buy your spouse something that says, “I was thinking about you today.” Romans 12:10 “Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.”

Step 4: ❤️Love is Thoughtful

Contact your spouse sometime during the day and ask how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them. Psalm 139: 17–18 “How precious to me are your thoughts, O God! How vast is the sum of them! If I would count them, they are more than the sand. I awake, and I am still with you.”

Step 5: ❤️Love is Not Rude

Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them. Proverbs 27:14 “Whoever blesses his neighbor with a loud voice, rising early in the morning, will be counted as cursing.”

Step 6: ❤️Love is Not Irritable

Choose to react to tough circumstances in your marriage in loving ways instead of with irritation. Proverbs 16:32 “Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.”

Step 7: ❤️Love Believes the Best

Write out positive things about your spouse in JournalOwl. At some point during the day, pick a positive attribute from the list and thank your spouse for having the characteristic. I Corinthians 13:7 “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”

Step 8: ❤️Love is Not Jealous

Share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he or she recently enjoyed. Song of Solomon 8:6 “Set me as a seal upon your heart, as a seal upon your arm, for love is strong as death, jealousy is fierce as the grave.Its flashes are flashes of fire, the very flame of the Lord.”

Step 9: ❤️Love Makes Good Impressions

Think of a way to greet your spouse today to reflect your love for them, and then do it with a smile and enthusiasm. I Peter 5:14 “Greet one another with the kiss of love. Peace to all of you who are in Christ.”

Step 10: ❤️Love is Unconditional

Do something out of the ordinary today for your spouse. Romans 5:8 “but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”

Step 11: ❤️Love Cherishes

What need does your spouse have that you could meet today? Example: Choose a gesture that says “I love you” and do it with a smile. Ephesians 5:28 “In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.”

Step 12: ❤️Love Lets the Other Win

Demonstrate love by willingly choosing to give in to an area of disagreement between you and your spouse. Philippians 2:4 “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.”

Step 13: ❤️Love Fights Fair

Talk with your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagement and resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs. Mark 3:25 “And if a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand.”

Step 14: ❤️Love takes delight

Purposefully neglect an activity you would normally do so you can spend quality time with your spouse. Ecclesiastes 9:9 “Enjoy life with the wife whom you love, all the days of your vain life that he has given you under the sun, because that is your portion in life and in your toil at which you toil under the sun.”

Step 15: ❤️Love is honorable

Choose a way to show honor and respect to your spouse that is above your normal routine. I Peter 3:7 “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.”

Step 16: ❤️Love Intercedes

Pray for three specific areas where you desire for God to work in your spouse’s life and in your marriage. 3 John 2 “Beloved, I pray that all may go well with you and that you may be in good health, as it goes well with your soul.”

Step 17: ❤️Love Promotes Intimacy

Determine to guard your mate’s secrets and pray for them. Proverbs 17:9 “Whoever covers an offense seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates close friends.”

Step 18: ❤️Love Seeks to Understand

Prepare a special dinner at home and focus this time on getting to know your spouse better. Proverbs 3:13 “Blessed is the one who finds wisdom, and the one who gets understanding,”

Step 19: ❤️Love is Impossible

Ask God to show you where you stand with him, and ask for the strength and grace to settle your eternal destination. I John 4:7 “Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God.”

Step 20: ❤️Love is Jesus Christ ✟

Dare to take God at his word and trust Jesus Christ for salvation. Romans 5:6 “For while we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly.”

Step 21: ❤️Love is Satisfied in God

Make time to pray and read your bible today. Isaiah 58:11 “And the Lord will guide you continually and satisfy your desire in scorched places and make your bones strong; and you shall be like a watered garden, like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail.”

Step 22: ❤️Love is Faithful

Choose to be committed to love even if your spouse has lost most of their interest in receiving it. Hosea 2:20 “I will betroth you to me in faithfulness. And you shall know the Lord.”

Step 23: ❤️Love Always Protects

Remove anything that is hindering your relationship, stealing your affections and turning your heart away from your spouse. I Corinthians 13:7 “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”

Step 24: ❤️Love vs. Lust

Identify every object of lust in your life and remove it. I John 2:17 “And the world is passing away along with its desires, but whoever does the will of God abides forever.”

Step 25: ❤️Love Forgives

If there is anything you haven’t forgiven in your spouse, forgive it today. 2 Corinthians 2:10 “Anyone whom you forgive, I also forgive. Indeed, what I have forgiven, if I have forgiven anything, has been for your sake in the presence of Christ…”

Step 26: ❤️Love is Responsible

Ask for God’s forgiveness for your areas of wrongdoing, then humble yourself enough to admit them to your spouse. Romans 2:1 “Therefore you have no excuse, O man, every one of you who judges. For in passing judgment on another you condemn yourself, because you, the judge, practice the very same things.”

Step 27: ❤️Love Encourages

Think of one area where your spouse has told you you’re expecting too much, and tell them you’re sorry for being so hard on them about it. Psalm 25:20 “Oh, guard my soul, and deliver me! Let me not be put to shame, for I take refuge in you.”

Step 28: ❤️Love Makes Sacrifices

Purpose to do what you can to meet the greatest need in your spouse’s life right now. I John 3:16 “By this we know love, that he laid down his life for us, and we ought to lay down our lives for the brothers.”

Step 29: ❤️Love's Motivation

Before you see your spouse again today, pray for them by name and for their needs. Ephesians 6:7 “rendering service with a good will as to the Lord and not to man…”

Step 30: ❤️Love Brings Unity

Ask the Lord to reveal anything in your own heart that is threatening oneness with your spouse and, if appropriate, discuss it openly and seek God for unity. John 17:11 “And I am no longer in the world, but they are in the world, and I am coming to you. Holy Father, keep them in your name, which you have given me, that they may be one, even as we are one.”

Step 31: ❤️Love and Marriage

Commit to God and your spouse to make your marriage the top priority over every other human relationship. Genesis 2:24 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”

Step 32: ❤️Love Meets Sexual Needs

If at all possible, try to initiate sex with your spouse today (in a way that honors them). I Corinthians 7:3 “The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.”

Step 33: ❤️Love Completes Each Other

Tell your spouse that you desire to include them in your upcoming decisions, and that you need their perspective and counsel. Ecclesiastes 4:11 “Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone?”

Step 34: ❤️Love Celebrates Godliness

Verbally commend your spouse about a recent time when they demonstrated Christian character in a noticeable way. I Corinthians 13:6 “[love] …it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.”

Step 35: ❤️Love is Accountable

Find a Christian marriage mentor. Ask God to direct your decisions and discernment. Proverbs 15:22 “Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed.”

Step 36: ❤️Love is God's Word

Commit to reading the bible every day. If your spouse is open to it, see if they will commit to reading with you. Psalm 119:105 “Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.”

Step 37: ❤️Love Agrees in Prayer

Ask your spouse if you can begin praying together. Matthew 18:19 “Again I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven.”

Step 38: ❤️Love Fulfills Dreams

Ask yourself what your spouse would want if it was obtainable, then map out a plan for meeting some (if not all) of their desires. Psalm 37:4 “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”

Step 39: ❤️Love Endures

Spend time in personal prayer, then write a letter of commitment and resolve to your spouse. Leave it in a place where your mate will find it. I Corinthians 13:8 “Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.”

Step 40: ❤️Love is a Covenant

Write out a renewal of your vows and place them in your home. Ruth 1:16 “But Ruth said, “Do not urge me to leave you or to return from following you. For where you go I will go, and where you lodge I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God my God.”
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