Losing a Loved One (Bereavement)
It's Ok That You're Not Ok
Although many of us feel comfortable talking openly about death, we still have a lot to learn about how to deal effectively with death's aftermath: grieving, the natural response to the loss of a loved one.
Few of us know what to do in order to be truly helpful to a grieving relative, friend, or acquaintance. In fact, only a tiny percentage of people who have had a traumatic loss are aware of how to assist themselves best.
Grief can't be resolved. Instead, it's a process that needs to be nurtured and experienced in whatever shape and for as long as it takes. That's why we believe journaling is a great exercise, one reaching to triumph in helping you nurse your trauma and loss.
We grieve our family, our bodies, our selves, but we need to grieve it in a way where we are kind to ourselves. So, with that said, we'll go through 21 steps to properly grieving with a thought-provoking journaling prompt. Let's start your journey of recovery together. Hang in there.
Step 1: Participate in the Rituals
Participate in rituals. Funerals, memorial services, and other customs help people get through the initial few days while also honoring the person who has died. It might be reassuring to be in the company of others who know your loved one.
Step 2: Allow Yourself To Feel
Grief can be so intense that people would try to avoid feeling it in the hopes of avoiding the suffering. Avoidance does not work when it comes to grieving. While avoiding grieving may appear to be the best option, the agony will eventually catch up with you, and you will need to face and experience it. To heal, you've to allow yourself to feel.
Step 3: Celebrate Their Life
The term "celebration of life" is frequently used as an alternative to "funeral." It has a nostalgic tone that honors the deceased's memory and celebrates what this individual contributed to the world. You may commemorate your loved ones in significant ways by allowing yourself to recall, talk about, and celebrate their lives.
Step 4: You Will Feel Lonely
Accept some loneliness. Loneliness is entirely normal, but it isn't essential. Reach out to support groups and friends who are accustomed to grief.
Step 5: Don't Be Afraid To Cry
If you're having a bad day, don't stop yourself from crying. Don't worry if hearing certain music or doing specific things makes you sad because it reminds you of the person you lost. It's very typical to feel this way. It becomes less painful after a while. Recognize that you can (and will) improve your mood over time.
Step 6: Maintain a routine in your day
Even if you aren't leaving the house, you should get ready and be up and about. Also, even if you aren't hungry, eat small, regular meals. Focus on your hobbies.
Step 7: Forget The Past For The Present
After you've been bereaved, don't make any important decisions or adjustments at home or work. Don't dive into it if you struggle with making a big decision.
Step 8: Preserve Memories
Make a memorial box or folder with mementos of the deceased individual. You can include memories, photos, phrases, or anything else you choose.
Step 9: Sleep Right
The first week was emotionally taxing, exhausting, and you're probably wiped out. Take a good look at your sleeping patterns. Do you need a nap? If so, don't hesitate to block off time during the day to lay down and snooze. And make sure that you are doing everything in your power to get high-quality sleep for yourself.
Step 10: Be Around Good Friends
Look for old and new friends that understand sadness and can let you be "alone but not alone" when you merely need company without adding to your worries or expectations. It's now time to be around people.
Step 11: Am I Done Grieving?
Should grief last approximately a year? A month? 5 days? No, all wrong answers! There is no set period in which to grieve. It takes different amounts of time for different people.
Step 12: Consider how you'll plan for your death
It's difficult to talk about death with your family, but it's necessary. When you have a conversation with other family members, make sure it is during a peaceful moment.
Step 13: You Have To Live Life
That adage about living each day as if it were your last has some truth to it. Nurture your relationships with your loved ones.
Step 14: Learn to Beat Guilt
Things you said or didn't say or do may cause you regret or guilt. You may also experience remorse about certain emotions (feeling relieved when a person died after a long, complex illness, for example).
Step 15: Grief Triggers
Prepare for "triggers" in your grieving. Anniversaries, holidays, and significant anniversaries can bring terrible memories and emotions.
Step 16: The First Acceptance
When you lose someone, one of the most common issues you may have is a sensation of being out of control because you can't control when they leave you.
Step 17: Feel How You Want
Don't let anyone dictate how you feel. Keep doing whatever helps you the most.
Step 18: Celebrate Your Life
If all you think about is the day you lost your loved one, or their illness, injury, or death, it's a cruel injustice. It is not only hurtful, but it also hinders your ability to recover and go on.
Step 19: Kindness Is Key
Grief can be so overwhelming at times that it makes it challenging to realize your own needs. Grief and self-care are vital factors to consider. It is critical, even if it appears inconsequential at the time.
Step 20: Accepting the New Reality
This is the final acceptance in your grief process. Accepting sadness and loss is a complex but necessary step in mourning.
Step 21: Preparing for the Future
Even though your loved one passed - you're still alive. It's important to remind yourself of that daily. Life is precious and every day is another opportunity to positively impact those around you.